Nine is different from seven or eight. At nine, things start happening that make a phone genuinely useful — not just symbolically important.
Your child might be walking to school for the first time. Catching a bus. Staying home alone for an hour after school while you finish work. Going to a friend's place two streets over without you dropping them off. These are normal, healthy developments. And they create a real need for the ability to call home.
The challenge is that this legitimate need arrives at the same time as the first wave of peer pressure around devices. Kids in Year 3 and Year 4 are starting to notice what everyone else has. The path of least resistance — just getting them an iPhone and being done with it — is tempting precisely because the need is real.
But the need is for a phone. Not a smartphone. Those two words describe completely different categories of device, and conflating them at nine is where most parents get into trouble they spend the next five years trying to unwind.
